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These are the crazy confessions of a novice mommy and her adventures in world "mom-ination." If you've followed my blog on PEOPLE.com/Babies, or read my new book Situation Momedy: A First-Time Mom's Guide to Laughing Your Way Through Pregancy & Year One, you're likely already familiar with my writing style and “Mommy-centric” blog fodder. If not, I'll introduce myself with this brief summary: Suffice it to say, I have kids. Two, in fact. Now, I’m not suggesting this defines me entirely, but it certainly goes a long way toward explaining my daily trials and tribulations with spit-up and dirty diapers. I also have five dogs, which throws some wacky canine parenting in the mix too. I hope you’ll continue coming back again and again for more of my motherhood anecdotes, and I look forward to hearing from you. If you haven't yet read "Situation Momedy," I hope you'll check it out! You can find a link for purchase under the "links" tab above. It makes a fun baby shower gift, even if you aren't a new mom yourself! The sequel, Situation Momedy: A Very Special Episode in Toddlerdom, is due to be released by Medallion Press in February 2017. Please feel free to follow me on Twitter and Instagram too!

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November 23, 2012

(From left to right: Me, Gray)

                 When our daughter was born, my husband and I regarded one another quizzically and pondered, “Which one of us does she look like?” For the first week or so we didn’t think she remotely resembled either of us, which sort of threw us for a loop. During her visit to the hospital my Mother-In-Law even exclaimed, “I can’t figure this out. Gray certainly doesn’t look like Brad when he was a baby!” Someone with less acute knowledge of my marriage might joke, “Is she the mailman’s kid?” I hope it goes without saying that the answer to that question is an emphatic “NO.” Anyway, our bewilderment was thwarted several weeks later when my mom showed up with a few photos she’d extracted from my baby book. It has been decades since I’ve seen any of those pictures and I was in for a bit of a shock. As it turns out, my daughter is the spitting image of none other than… me.

“Does my child look like me?” is a question I imagine most parents are at least mildly curious about when they usher a tiny human into the world. After all, who doesn’t want to have their very own little version of themselves leaving footprints in the sand? (For more on that, check out my April blog post, entitled “Adventures With A Future Mini-Me.”) Self-indulgent though it may be, there’s something wildly fulfilling about seeing shades of yourself in a child you’ve created and love so completely. Those subtle, self-reflective nuances are indicative of the legacy you will be leaving behind. They are a tangible reminder that we should strive to set better examples for our children. And yet, you can’t help but hope your child finds his or her individuality. I want my daughter to be her own version of greatness and to forge her own path. There’s nothing more wonderful than watching my child develop her own unique sense of self.

The beautiful truth of the matter is, I can already see evidence of Gray’s distinct personality shining through. Even at six months old, it is unmistakably hers and hers alone. Though she may exhibit some of our tendencies, such as my stubbornness or my husband’s surly expression (a favorite of mine, regardless of who’s wearing it), she also has some clearly distinguishable attributes of her own. She is a careful observer and has a surprising amount of patience for someone in my bloodline. (Except, of course, when she wants food. That lovely trait may have been acquired from me…)  Not to mention, the look she gives just prior to soiling her diaper should be patented.

(From left to right: Me, Gray)

Suffice it to say, though our features may bear a striking resemblance, I know my daughter will walk in her own shoes instead of mine. I’ll be the first to let her know it’s okay to follow the dreams and aspirations she sets for herself; I don’t expect her to live the same life her father or I have lead. Her eyes may look astoundingly similar to mine, but they will see life through a different prism, which is exactly the way it should be.

Until next time… Peace, Love, & Dirty Diapers,

Jenna von Oy

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  • Saskia says:

    Your daughter does actually look like you, although I might have to fight you on the nose… that’s definitely a mix. She’s the cutest and I’m sure you are so very proud of her already. Don’t have my own little mini-me yet but I’m sure I too will ask people surrounding me who he/she looks like the most! Thanks for this post!

  • Mrs. Pancakes says:

    Awww these are soo cute….I love that my son is starting to resemble my husband and I…more me though than hubby. And his personality is coming through as well…it’s such a beautiful thing that our children really are a reflection of us!!

  • Jade says:

    I know it’s been a while since you’ve posted this, but I just found your blog and love it! My youngest daughter, Isabel, looks like her dad, but her personality is almost exactly like mine…it’s funny and frustrating at the same time. I see some of the traits about myself that I’m not a fan of becoming glaringly obvious in my daughter…and when you have two stubborn people going head-to-head it gets a little crazy! Not only that, but she’s picked up on some of my “sayings” that I didn’t realize I said that often…but hearing your preschooler say things like “seriously” or tell you to “wait a minute” because she’s busy makes you realize you say it a lot more than you think! Anyway, love you blog, and can’t wait to catch up through the archives and see what happens next. Thanks for sharing.

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